One of the most irritating arguments that people have for supporting abortion is that their life would be bad if they had the chance to live it. Can you see into the future? You can see where this child will go if they are put up for adoption? You know what their life will end up being like? You know that they don't have the power to fight through hard times? Even if you knew all of the answers to these questions, you don't have the right to make that choice for this person. Yes they are a person, from the second they are conceived they are a person.
Let me bring this to our level for a second and make a comparison that may shed some light on what I am talking about. Imagine you have been studying in school and got a degree for your dream profession and then you get your dream job. You prepare for that job buying new outfits, researching up on that job and imagining yourself going great places. Then the day before you are going to start this job you are fired for the reason of the boss just not feeling it. How would that feel? Of course this is not a fair comparison. One person is losing a job and the other person is losing a life. The person who lost a job will be hurt but they will eventually move past it. The innocent child who lost their life cannot move on. They didn't even get to experience any part of this thing they were supposed to move past. However the comparison shows that both circumstances were uncalled for and unfair.
Now before anyone gets all huffy and puffy asking "what about incest, rape or the mom's life being in harms way?" This is not what I am talking about. I understand that there are times when abortion is necessary in the case that the mother's life is in danger. There may also be cases where a mother chooses abortion because they are pregnant after rape. This is a harder situation to be in and I support the choice being given to the mother depending on her mental state regarding the trauma she has gone through. But these cases account for a few of the number of abortions that happen every year. The majority of abortions that happen are due to a pregnancy inconveniencing a women's life.
Regarding a women's life, another "excuse" some use for supporting abortion is that it is the women's body so no one else should have a say. This just burns me up. I cannot even explain how infuriated I feel when I hear this. I am a woman and I am all for women having a voice #equalrights but women who get pregnant already made their choice, again I am not talking about those who were raped. So none of this prochoice business because the choice is gone and past. Now the woman is pregnant and she is no longer dealing with her body she is dealing with two bodies. "To pretend that there is no child and no life there is to deny reality" (2012).
Maybe some are asking how I could even know how it feels like to make that choice. You are right I don't know how that feels but I do know how it feels to loose a baby before even getting to meet them. I know that a piece of my heart broke off and left with that baby the second I found out that they were gone. I know that I will always miss that baby and I will always be sad that I wasn't able to kiss their little toes. The way I feel from loosing a baby without choosing lets me know that I could not even imagine choosing this for a baby. So I cannot even imagine how hard of a choice this is but I know it is a choice and I know that all choices have other options.
There are so many couples out there waiting to grow their family but cannot on their own. I personally know a lot of families who have adopted and I know it changed their lives to be blessed with their new gifts from God. LDS services is a great source for finding a loving family to adopt your baby, you can find out more at https://adoption.com/lds .
Here is an excerpt from one of the profiles of a potential adoptive couple on adoption.com/lds:
"We are so grateful for birth parents and their decision to let adoptive parents raise their precious babies. They are the only ones who can give us what we cannot give ourselves; the blessing and opportunity to start our family. We are excited for the chance to adopt as we have hoped for a long time to start our family."
You may be someone who just found out you are pregnant and are freaking out. You may be scared and confused but you have an opportunity to change someone's life by giving them something they may have been trying years to try to give themselves. So instead of ending that life inside of you make that choice and give your baby a new and promising life that they can live.
Resources:
Hawkins, Alan J. , Dollahite, David C. , Draper, Thomas W. (2012). Successful Marriages and Families: Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives. Provo, Utah: Brigham Young University
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